A couple of months back I had a disconcerting moment after finding this on my mobile phone Google search app.
I heard you gasp!
Ignore Cheltenham, that was me looking for a hotel, not where you’re likely to find naked ladies and privets!
As I’m sure some of you can imagine, the next next few hours of my day were spent soul searching. Was I a bad Mother? Why is my 6 year old searching these things? How could he possibly be interested in girls yet? What did I miss?…….Why can’t he spell picture correctly? (Joke).
After ringing my Mum and requesting advice from several friends (Useless though they were when in fits of hysterics) I decided to prepare myself for a ‘chat’. The initial ‘What have you been searching for on my phone lately’ question was met with a bashful gasp and a cushion to the face. He instantly knew what I was referring to. Does this mean he knew it was wrong? Is it wrong to be inquisitive though? The fact he searched for this information on my phone was not his fault, I shouldn’t have left him alone with it. Surely he would have just asked me those questions directly if the phone hadn’t been available….or perhaps that would have been far too embarrassing for him? How do you ensure your kids probe you, before the internet?
When I finally talked him out of hiding I told him it was perfectly fine to be curious about things, it’s how people learn. I explained that I would happily tell him anything he needed to know, all he had to do was ask. I think I expected his next few questions to relate to ‘kissing and cuddling’ but in fact he explained that he’d wanted to know what ‘it’, ‘ladies bits’ were called. I can’t tell you how relieved I was.
The details of what we call ‘it’ are probably of no further interest to you but I will tell you that I also told him the real name for ‘it’. Thankfully, when asking him about it again several minutes later he had forgotten how to pronounce it. Phew!
After doing a bit of my own Google searching I found this excellent advice on early sexual development. It may be useful to bookmark it. For any of you who think their kids are too young….you are wrong!
I dread to think about the teenage years!
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Apr 17, 2013 @ 20:15:47
Reblogged this on Jari65 Blog.
Apr 17, 2013 @ 21:23:18
children, sometimes they amaze you in their ingenuity.
Apr 18, 2013 @ 14:37:40
He certainly amazes me, every day! He’s so clever it scares me!
Apr 17, 2013 @ 22:32:16
Teenage years aren’t that bad – but I think that’s because people *think* they are then old enough to know, so educate them at school and so on.
You’d be surprised about what naked ladies we have in Cheltenham mind lol
Apr 18, 2013 @ 14:25:45
I’ll definitely be doing my best to educate him before he searches anymore – it’s worrying what he could have found!
If I come across such ladies on my travels, I’ll be sure to write a blog post about it, ha ha.
Apr 18, 2013 @ 13:07:27
Children are going to find out sooner or later. At some point, I’ll be having that talk as well. (three times) Ouch!
Apr 18, 2013 @ 14:32:01
I don’t envy multiple talks! My singular was quite nerve racking enough! Ha ha. Good luck!
Apr 18, 2013 @ 13:39:38
I think you approached this situation in the best way possible – it’s always best in my experience to be honest with your children, and encourage them to come to you for anything they may be curious about.
Apr 18, 2013 @ 14:36:04
Thank you. I’m really pleased I found the search results while he was at school, otherwise I wouldn’t have had time to think it through properly. Hopefully he’ll come to me from now on.